Pushed for time? Sat through one too many dreadful blind dates? Can’t seem to find/meet new potential dates? Don’t like nightclubs anymore? Tired of hearing those silly one-liners and pickup lines? Why not try speed dating? Defined as an organized method for meeting potentially romantic partners in which participants get to evaluate one another, speed dating is less intimidating than meeting strangers in a bar or a local pub, and a lot safer.
It is known as a fast ‘n fun way for meeting an eligible date by entering a room full of potential partners who are also looking to date. It’s a great way to enlarge your social circle and meet new people. You can easily meet as many as 25 prospective dates at a single event. However, whether you’re a speed-dating enthusiast or new to speed dating, there’s one thing everyone knows: you have very little time to meet a potential suitor.
How can you really decide you want to date someone in a short period then? Well, by asking the right questions, of course. So, without further ado, let’s look at these speed-dating questions:
1. What Do You Do For Work?
You wouldn’t want to be with an unemployed man with no potential. Therefore, knowing his current employment status is important. It is also a good introductory question to spark a conversation. Besides, who knows he could be a high-end lawyer or the manager of your favorite restaurant. You never know!
2. Why Are You Single?
You can find out a lot about a person with this simple question! Was he a dominating individual that his woman could no longer stand? Was he victim of a cheating girlfriend? Has he been divorced recently? A simple question like this can get you both talking instantly.
3. Have You Ever Been Married?
You can skip this question, if the guy already stated that he’s been divorced. However, asking about marriage and getting to know a little about his past can help you figure out whether he’s the player kind of guy or the serious relationship type.
4. Do You Have Any Kids?
If you aren’t supportive of the idea of having kids, this might be a deal breaker for you. At the same time, it could disclose that he’s a family man. Therefore, you can feel assured that he’s looking for something serious.
5. If No, Do You Want Kids?
If the answer to the above question is no, do consider finding out whether or not he’s up for the challenge of having kids. If you are looking for a family guy, then this question could make it or break it for most women.
6. How Old Are You?
This is an important question, as many people look to date a person who’s the same age. If he’s 45 and you’re 21, you might want to wait until the next guy comes to your table.
7. How Long Have You Lived In This City?
This is a good way to figure out a little about the person’s life. It could be that he’s recently moved from another exotic country or state you always wanted to visit or he’s a native of the land.
8. What Do You Do For Fun?
This is a good question to figure out whether you two are a match. If he loves art, you love art – match! If he loves watching TV shows/movies, you do too – match! If you enjoy slow car rides and he loves fast cars – not a match.
9. Do You Have Any Pets?
If you are a pet lover, then this question might be crucial. Figure out whether or not he’s supportive of keeping pets. If so, then it’s a match made in heaven.
10. Do You Like To Explore New Places?
Perhaps he’s a homebody who would rather stay indoors and treat you to candlelight massagers and homemade dinner or maybe he’s the adventurous type that loves to travel and explore places. Best, he could be a balance of both.
11. What’s Something You Want To Know About Me?
Don’t hesitate on asking whether he wants to know something about you too. Maybe the questions he asks may give you a better opinion on how he is as a person.
12. What’s Your Favorite Movie?
Everybody has at least one favorite movie that they’ve watched countless of times. Feel free to ask him about the movie he loves. You may also get to know a lot about his personality. For instance, if he’s a funny guy but loves action movies. It shows he’s a dramatic person.
13. If You Could Have Dinner With A Famous Person, Who Would It Be?
If you don’t like asking boring questions, this is a fun way to spark an interesting conversation. Does he want to meet young Pamela Anderson or meet Morgan Freeman for his amazing personality?
14. What’s One Of Your Talents?
He could be an exceptional dancer or singer who will always keep you entertained even in the saddest of times. Perhaps he could be an artist or painter as well. You might never know!
15. Where’s One Place You Want To Visit?
This may give you an insight on whether he’s an adventurous person or not. Does he want to breathe in the majestic views of Iceland? Does he want to lure in the sun of the amazing beaches in Maldives?
16. Do You Like The City Or The Country?
With this question, you might get to know whether or not he loves to be energetic or busy or if he’s a laid-back individual.
17. How Would Your Friends Describe You?
Friends always know a person best. This is a great question to figure out what kind of guy he actually is and whether or not he can at least be a good friend, if not a date.
18. What’s Your Favorite Color?
Another interesting and fun question just to know about the “likes” of the guy.
19. What Is Your Dream Career?
Consider asking him about his dream job. Everyone has one subtle or wild fantasy about their dream job, but never actually get to do it.
20. Is There Anything In Particular You’re Passionate About?
You might find out that he’s a strong vocalist for women rights. Maybe he enjoys listening to music profoundly or he’s an avid traveler.
21. What’s Your Favorite Thing About Yourself?
This question gives you a little insight into how confident the person is. Most confident men will have a straight up answer to this question.
22. What’s Something You’d Change About Yourself?
Where there are good qualities, there are also bad. Ask him whether there is anything he would wish to change about himself. The answer might be a physical trait or something on a more personal and deeper level.
23. What’s Your Favorite Food?
If you actually like the guy, then this question is the deal breaker. It might eventually lead to you two making plans for a dinner date! Wouldn’t that be fun and exciting?
24. What’s Your Favorite Music?
Just like the taste in movies, knowing his favorite kind of music that can let you know whether he’s an energetic person or a little laid back.
25. What’s Something You Look For In A Woman?
This important question enables you to figure out whether or not the guy actually looks for personality traits rather than simple looks.
26. Do You Enjoy Reading?
A man who doesn’t mind picking up a good book for reading is a major turn on for some women. Ask him about his favorite book.
27. What’s The Craziest Thing You’ve Ever Done?
This is always an exciting question to ask. If the guy is talkative, he might have some interesting stories to share with you.
28. What Would You Do If You Won The Lottery?
This is another great question to spark an exciting debate/conversation. If the guy comes up with a better and more thrilling answer than buying a house or car and thinks outside of the box, he might just surprise you with his personality and charm.
29. If You Were Given Three Wishes, What Would You Wish For?
Everyone has a particular fantasy or wish they’ve always wanted to come true. Don’t hesitate on what that would be for your guy.
30. What’s The Worst Pickup Line You’ve Ever Heard?
Speed dating isn’t all about asking serious questions. It’s about give yourself a laugh and lightening up your mood. So, don’t hesitate on being a little flirtatious.
31. What’s The Best Joke You’ve Ever Heard?
A funny guy is always a blessing. When the jokes come naturally, it’s even better. However, if there is an awkward tension between you two. The best way to lighten up the mood is to get you two laughing at a funny joke.
32. Do You Like To Do DIY Projects?
A man who likes/enjoys doing things himself and isn’t hesitant on exploring his creative and brainy side is an automatic winner for any women. There is nothing more turning on than watching a man put something together with his own hands.
33. What Kind Of Car Do You Drive?
You don’t want to come off as a woman digging for gold, so be careful not to ask this question very soon. Just ask it casually during an interesting conversation. Maybe you might find he’s quite the car enthusiast.
34. What’s The Most Embarrassing Thing That’s Ever Happened To You?
Feel free to pull this question out, if you feel there’s an awkward tension building up. Everybody has an interesting and embarrassing story to share. It is also a good way to get you giggling.
35. What’s Your Worst Habit?
It’s good to know these things before you feel a connection. If he has a habit of drinking alcohol, smoking, or any other bad habit – make sure to ask him about it.
36. Are You Pessimistic Or Optimistic?
If the person is pessimistic and so are you, it might form a good connection. However, its better you be with someone who’s a little positive about life. Otherwise, how can he cheer you up when low?
37. What Is Your Idea Of The Perfect Relationship?
This question is for sealing the deal, especially if you like the person a lot. Figure out what’s the ideal and perfect relationship for a guy. If he believes in honest communication, trustworthiness, and equality of chores, he’s the perfect kind. However, if he thinks the woman should do all the work. Forget about continuing anything.
Some Offbeat Questions To Break The Ice:
If you are tired of all the serious questions, it’s time to get a little funky. Break the ice with these fun and interesting questions:
- What is your favorite takeaway or to-go meal that you always eat?
- If you were a star or character in a movie, who would you play?
- What’s that one small thing that always ticks you off?
- Have you ever been told that you resemble someone famous?
- You have six months to live, what will you do first?
- What is your favorite month of the year and why?
- Is sexual compatibility very important to you?
- Who was your hero when you were a child?
- What makes you laugh like crazy?
- What do you like a woman wearing?
- Lazing on the beach or exploring?
- Do you have a party trick?
- Do you snore?
So, if you want your speed dating to succeed, don’t hesitate on asking these mixes of serious, fun and interesting questions. Of course, it would be even better if conversations flow naturally, but to get an insight into the person’s personality: pick a few questions to ask for your evening. However, make sure to ease these questions into conversations, without it feeling like an interview.