Life is way too short to be anything but happy. I love that motto in the dating world. Dating is supposed to be fun right? Well I thought it was, but sometimes it can be very frustrating.
Dating can seemingly feel like you’re the next contestant on The Bachelor. The thought of yourself being one of many options for the guy you really like can be very discouraging. There’s always someone prettier or smarter out there right?
Well let me ask you this, do you know what you’re looking for? That is the first question you should be asking yourself before you get out in the dating world. If you’re just wanting to date and meet new people, then let the dates begin…go get em’ tiger!
If you know you want a relationship, then you need to look for people who want the same thing as you…nothing is worse than someone wasting your time, and time is one of the few things we can’t get back. Here are a few signs to let you know he’s not ready for a relationship.
Their Actions Speak Louder Than Their Words
This is can be a good thing and a bad thing, depending on how it’s being displayed. Have you ever been talking to someone and they say they’re going to call you, but then they never do? I think everyone has experienced that at some point in their lives.
Saying one thing and doing another is frustrating in general, but to experience that on the dating scene is even worse. When someone you like tells you they’re going to do something with you or for you, you’re hanging on to that. It’s given you something to look forward to, and sometimes it’s what helps you make it through the week.
So when they don’t do what they said they were going to do, that can can be quite devastating. This is where the saying “your word is your bond” comes into play. Experiencing this so many times has really made me put in the effort to really be a woman of my word, and if I know I won’t be able to do what I said I would do, I will let that person know and apologize.
Saying one thing, and doing another is not something you want to be known for. It gives you a bad reputation and you lose credibility, making you untrustworthy. Nobody want the title of being untrustworthy.
You’re at the Bottom of Their Priorities List
When I hear the word prioritize, the first thing that comes to my mind is putting the most important things at the top, and your least important things at the bottom. If the guy you’re dating puts you at the bottom of his priorities list, then it’s probably a good sign that you should look into other options for dating.
You can tell when a man wants to be with you. He is calling you, setting up dates and times to see you, simply because he wants to see you. It’s as simple as that. I don’t care how busy you are…you make time for the things you want to do.
If a man has a busy schedule, but he really likes you…you can best believe he is going to adjust his schedule and move things around because you’re at the top of his priorities list. Believe me, if you were at the bottom of his priorities list, you would know…by him not contacting you at all!
Getting his time and attention shouldn’t be an uphill battle. If he was serious about you and getting to know you, you would already be a priority and he would make sure you knew that…he is a keeper
He Leaves You in Dating Limbo
Limbo is that area of uncertainty…a gray area, if you will. When you’re getting to know someone, the intentions should be pretty clear for the most part. When you’re dating someone who isn’t ready for a relationship, you’re left constantly wonder where you stand with him.
I’ve definitely been in “situationships” where I’ve had to ask several times “what are we doing?” When you have to ask questions like that, he clearly isn’t ready for a relationship…you don’t know where anything is going, meanwhile he knows it’s not going anywhere, but he’s not going to tell you that flat out. Men will say something like “I thought we were hanging out.”
If you are dating someone and you are in dating limbo, that’s a red flag letting you know that he’s not ready. If he wanted to be serious, there wouldn’t be a doubt in your mind as to what his intentions for you are.
We have these types of conversations with our girlfriends all the time because our girlfriends are the best givers of advice! Well, you’re part of the circle of friends giving out advice…why can’t you hand out your own advice…
Get yourself a brandable domain name and create a relationship blog! You can look at this as your own therapy business!
You Haven’t Met Any of His Friends or Family
You may have heard him talk about his mom or his best friend Michael, but you surely haven’t met them. You know why? It’s because he doesn’t see the need in you meeting them since he has no serious intentions for you.
Of course, you can’t expect to meet his friends and family at the very beginning…you’re still getting to know each other…but after having dated for a few months, that has to bring about some questions for you.
Someone who is truly interested in you and wants you in their life for the long haul, would be extremely excited to introduce you to their friends and family. If you’re dating someone who displays opposite characteristics of that, you should probably move on…he’s not on the same commitment level as you.